I had a very interesting conversation with someone tonight and I kept my breathing in check as accusations and excuses were thrown at me. I responded in a calm tone and decided to stop replying by saying "Hey you are angry and I am not going to continue to talk to you".
It worked! The person walked off and in my heart I just tell God how I feel about the situation. Then I took out my ear-piece and started listening to Kelly Clarkson's songs. Oh boy, Kelly's songs are so relevant at that moment. It was like the lyrics are align to your feelings and Kelly is singing your emotions out by her powerful voice. Check out her "People Like Us", "Catch My Breath" and "Stronger"!~
Everywhere we go, there is always situations which will cause us to be provoked. A person with high neuroticism will have the tendency to easily experience unpleasant emotions, what's more is the person's capacity to handle stressful situation. Hence, it calls for some sort of quick tips that I came up with personally to keep our temper in check:
1) Do not shout back.
It is so common and what-seems-right to speak back at the same volume as the person who is raising the voice at you. But overall, by not shouting back, you are the wiser one who seems to be more under-control and having more sense to respond to the issue. You are showing the opposite party that you are not going to scoop to his or her level of reacting to sensitive issues and you are definitely more refined than the person.
2) Take and Go
Let the person say out his or her sentence, when seeming finished, then you say out your respond in a calm and clear voice. You say one sentence, I say one sentence. Conversation-cum-explanation keeps running and you will eventually get the clearer picture of the issue and understanding the root cause of the problem, then find out what solutions can be suggested to tackle it.
If experiencing a tough, unfavorable and unspeakable situation, do not respond back and walk away calmly.
3) Do not nurse it, do not rehearse it and release it.
It may sound difficult or even impossible because of the words he or she has said to you. I understand the power of words and how words may hurt a person's feelings. Forgetting what has been said is the correct decision. Remembrance of it brings pain and just deepens the wounds. Why not try to let go of all that has been said or written and tell yourself that you deserve a better treatment.
Forgive him or her in your heart and say that "I forgive (name) for all that he/she has said/wrote about me and I am going to forget about this incident, I am going to be a big person who moves on." You can easily forget but you must also choose to forgive the offender.
Unforgiveness is like drinking in poison in your body so choose to forgive and release it to God.
How you know you have forgiven the person who hurt you?
You choose not to rehearse the past incident in front of the person and you are comfortable in speaking to the person without feeling angry because of what he or she has done to you before.
Useful movie to recommend for the night:
CyberBully
Cyberbully is a television film that premiered on July 17, 2011 on ABC Family and the film was released on DVD February 7, 2012. It tells the story of a teenage girl, acted by Emily Osment, who is bullied online. What are the reasons she was bullied online?
Do watch the movie on YouTube or you can purchase or rent it at any DVD shops.
Link: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cyberbully_(film)
"We can't pretend that this didn't happen, it happened, and you need help, and there is nothing wrong with asking for help. It's really hard to see you this much pain"
"You put so much into your life and your life is so precious"
"You can let a bird fly over your head, but you can stop it from building a nest on your head."
Credits:
Wikipedia
YouTube
